OK, so first things first—don’t get “Dad Time” mixed up with something else. Though hey, if something else helps you feel better, go for it. But let’s focus on what “Dad Time” really means and why it’s so important.

What Is “Dad Time”?

“Dad Time” is exactly what it sounds like—time set aside just for you. It’s not about being selfish; it’s about recharging your batteries so you can be the best dad possible. After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

The reason I decided to write this is simple. After my split with the ex-Mrs. DDT, I was in a rough spot. We both knew our relationship wasn’t working, but now the focus was on doing what was right for the kids. I took this seriously—so seriously that I cut out pretty much everything fun in my life. The only thing I kept doing was going to the gym because I figured staying fit would help me be a better dad. I thought I was being a good role model for my kids, showing them the importance of health and fitness.

But I stopped going out, working 50+ hours a week, and aside from the gym, I had no time for myself or my friends. It was all work, kids, and sleep. After a few months, I started feeling more and more depressed. I had everything I needed, but I was miserable. I found myself snapping at the kids, grumpy, and just not myself.

So I realized I had to make a change. That’s when I came up with “Dad Time.”

How Do You Do “Dad Time”?

The idea is simple, but sometimes we need a reminder. “Dad Time” is about setting aside at least an hour a week for yourself—more if you can manage it. This is time for you to do whatever makes you happy, whether that’s playing video games, going for a run, grabbing a pint with friends, or even just chilling with a book. The key is that it’s your time to enjoy life, unwind, and recharge.

Don’t feel bad about taking this time. It’s not just for your benefit; it’s for your kids too. When you’re happier and less stressed, you’re a better dad, plain and simple.

If you’re anything like me, you might have lost touch with some friends as life got busier with kids and work. That’s OK. Start by reaching out—social media is great for this. Send a message to an old buddy, plan a reunion, or even try something new. Expand your social circle and get back out there.

Why “Dad Time” Is OK

I’ll be honest—at first, I felt guilty. Spending time or money on myself instead of my kids didn’t sit right. But I soon realized that if I was stressed, grumpy, and exhausted, I wasn’t doing anyone any favors, least of all my kids.

Think of “Dad Time” as an investment in yourself and your relationship with your kids. Yes, you’re spending time on yourself, but the return on that investment is a happier, more engaged dad. You’ll have more energy to play with your kids, more patience, and more joy to share.

Remember to keep things in proportion. This isn’t about blowing your entire paycheck on a night out and justifying it as “Dad Time.” It’s about finding ways to recharge that work for you and your budget. If you can afford a big splurge, great—but if not, that’s OK too. It’s not about how much you spend; it’s about taking care of yourself so you can be the best dad possible.

Since I started prioritizing “Dad Time,” I’ve been 100% happier. My kids are happier too, because I have more energy, more patience, and more fun to offer them. The cycle of stress and exhaustion has been broken.

Conclusion

Don’t wait until you’re at the end of your rope. Start scheduling some “Dad Time” now, and see the difference it makes in your life and your relationship with your kids. It’s not just OK—it’s essential.