If someone is in immediate danger
Call 999 for an ambulance if someone has seriously harmed themselves, taken an overdose or may act on suicidal thoughts now. Tell the call handler where they are and what has happened. Follow their instructions. Do not wait for a reply from this website. NHS advice on suicidal thoughts.
If you are reading this because you are struggling yourself, you deserve help now. You do not need to prepare an explanation or prove things are bad enough before calling.
Someone to talk to now
- Samaritans: 116 123, free, any time, day or night, across the UK and Ireland. You can call about your own feelings or because you are worried about someone. Contact Samaritans.
- Shout: text SHOUT to 85258 for free, round-the-clock text support in the UK. The NHS lists Shout and other support options.
- For urgent clinical help, contact your GP and explain that the concern is urgent, or your existing mental health crisis team. Local routes vary across the UK. In immediate danger, use 999.
Start the conversation directly
You might notice a mate withdrawing, or he might say something that worries you. You do not have to diagnose him before checking in. Find a private moment and say what you have noticed without making an accusation.
For example: “You seem to be having a really hard time. Are you thinking about suicide?” Asking directly gives him room to answer honestly. Samaritans explains how to ask and offer support.
Listen before trying to fix things
Take what he says seriously. Let him finish, including pauses. A simple “I am glad you told me” is more useful than arguing that he has plenty to live for. Avoid using his children or family responsibilities to make him feel guilty.
Ask what would help with the next step: sitting beside him while he calls, helping explain the situation to a clinician, or contacting someone he trusts. Do not make a promise to keep immediate danger secret. If the situation becomes an emergency, call 999.
Make the next step concrete
An offer such as “I can stay while you make that call” is easier to use than “let me know if you need anything”. If you cannot be there, say so honestly and help him identify another source of support. A friend can help someone reach care; a friend should not have to provide all of that care alone.
Once immediate help is in place, agree a realistic time to check in again. If a professional has helped him make a safety plan, ask how you can support it. The NHS links to safety-planning resources.
If you are supporting someone
Being worried about a person you care about can be exhausting. You can call Samaritans yourself. Having limits does not mean you do not care, and another person’s crisis is not a test you have to pass by finding perfect words.
For related reading, see mental health support for new dads and UK help and resources for dads.
Updated 10 September 2026. Sources used for the guidance are linked above.
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